I have written an article examining how victims of molestation cope with their experience by continuing the abuse (CTA) in the form of three behaviors: promiscuity, bragging, and dysfunctional relationships. Like habits, CTA behaviors manifest over time and are not easy to break. When we are practicing CTA we are owning the experience of abuse in order to feel in control and deny the role of victim. This is often a subconscious reaction to child abuse and adult molestation. Whereas the first article seeks to identify behaviors it does not offer solutions to discontinue CTA. We know how we got here. How do we stop?
 
            Dr. Frances Cress Welsing said, people of color should examine everything in the context of racism/white supremacy; especially the conditioning of our minds. Molestation can be defined as: to break in upon and to disorganize in order to displace. For the sake of this article, we will call the above definition ‘The Method of Molestation’(TMOM). When you break down TMOM you understand the same method was used to enslave Africans; the infiltration (break in upon) of African villages in order to separate (disorganize) African families so to change their status of civilization and environment (displace). The result of the success of TMOM waged against Africans who survived American slavery is ignorance of self. Likewise, the result of the success of TMOM waged against victims of sexual abuse is ignorance of sex; and when we do not know the purpose of self or sex we abuse or continue the abuse (CTA) of both. Therefore, victims of slavery and sexual abuse will follow the same path to discover a solution, and this article offers the following steps:
 

• Let go of the environment of abuse: We often struggle to keep the company of our abuser or the home of abuse when we are seeking absolution. This is an unhealthy practice as every time you walk into the environment of your abuse you are:

1. Subconsciously giving away your power to choose refuge and,
2. Re-experiencing the abuse and your abuser

Note: Remember many slaves relocated after the civil war and many returned to their masters because of fear of independence and a lack of resources. This leads me to the next step.

• Get independent: When we escape the environment (plantation) of abuse we have already developed CTA behavior. Amid CTA is the language and sexual behavior of abuse we must emancipate ourselves from. Continuing the behavior of abuse is no different than continuing the culture of slavery after the civil war. In order to reclaim our sexuality, independent of our abuser, we must dismantle the premature appetite for sex we developed during and after abuse by first acknowledging it is not our own.
• The NOI teaches the first step to freedom is changing our name from the name given to us by our oppressor to a native name.

This is a declaration of independence from the past for us to recite in solitude or in support-groups:
​
I am not my past.
​I am not my thoughts OR
the emotions/behavior they produce.
I AM the consciousness that says, I AM.
Therefore, I am free to exist.

• Get conscious: When African slaves were brought to the antebellum south their knowledge of self had been stunted; they had been stripped of their names (identity) and branded. Likewise, victims of child abuse (sexual) and adult molestation are wrought with a contaminated knowledge of sex and subconsciously begin to label themselves by practicing the CTA behaviors. When we recognize this as our experience and pattern of behavior we have already regained consciousness; now, in order to abstain from CTA, we must work to get the information denied us about sex by our abuser. Most notable ideologies about the purpose of sex will lead to the practice of a disciplined sexuality.

Note: When we are struggling to maintain a disciplined sexuality we are struggling to discontinue the behavior of our abuser (CTA).
 
            Getting back to the nature of sexuality and self is becoming a student of the knowledge of truth (we were denied) in order to counter the waged war against our body, status of civilization, and identity. We will not know the vast amount of families harmed by TMOM and CTA until we all come out and come forth about our experience and heal. Until then it remains another system of oppression waged against our communities. 

Molestation is a term we are comfortable discussing in the area of child abuse. Though we often misunderstand how children who suffer from sexual abuse grow to continue the familiar behavior of their perpetrator. I call this continuing-the-abuse (CTA). It can be further defined as the subconscious practice of maintaining the contaminated realities of your abuse by offering and or accepting the same abusive behavior. CTA is a wildly popular coping mechanism in the black community because many of us are overlooking the relationship betwixt the condition of our mental health and our experiences. Instead of seeking retreat, counseling, and support groups, we indulge in promiscuity, bragging, and a series of dysfunctional relationships that often lead to the premature conception of children, broken/blended families and communities.
The late Dr. Frances Cress Welsing, a black scholar/psychiatrist, offered a solution when she stated: because of this waged war on our community, black men and women should start families betwixt the ages of 30-35. She maintained this premise in the context of racism/white supremacy. I am reinforcing her solution in the context of child abuse/adult molestation; because the exploitation of black marriage, sexuality, and family, in order to breed more laborers to increase the economic profitability of slave-owners during slavery, still wars against us in the area of sexuality and mental health.
Sexuality is natural. The expression of sexuality is learned behavior. If you do not believe in the passing-on of the sins of the father, which include sexual immorality, you might understand how the inhumane practices forced on our enslaved ancestors are the continued patterns of sexual abuse lurking in our communities today. Historically, we can trace this war against our bodies to the antebellum south. Even after submission, there can be no war without retaliation. Retaliation is defense. In this article we are looking at how we defend ourselves against child abuse and adult molestation by owning the abuse when we are practicing the following CTA behaviors:

• PROMISCUITY: After premature sexual arousal we develop a mature (physical) appetite for sex at an immature (mental) age. This often leads to an early discovery of masturbation, child’s-play with the opposite/same sex (depending on the gender of the perpetrator), and pornography. All of which becomes the miseducation of sexuality we carry into adulthood and adult sexual-relations. Notice how your sexual expectations can be traced back to your initial exposure to sex. Think, but do not stay there.
• BRAGGING: Often found in men who, after being sexually abused, are taught that losing their virginity is a right of passage into manhood and so they are subconsciously convinced to normalize their abuse and even brag about the experience to gain the respect of their peers. After losing control of their sexuality, both women and men resort to bragging in order to counter the waged war against their bodies and feel in control of their sexual choices.
• DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS: Romantic relationships often fail or become dysfunctional when our partner is not able to meet the inhumane sexual expectations we went on to develop after the abuse.

The three CTA behaviors are ways in which we own molestation. After sexual abuse we begin to react. Our reaction to the abuse become the pattern of behavior that make-up our sexual character. We do not deny character. We become character; and we own who we become when we maintain the behaviors inherent to our character.
If you or a partner is struggling with any of the three CTA behaviors go get the help you need. Do not continue the abuse.